How to Start a Conversation

1. Positive thinking

Often, the thing that makes someone feel afraid or hesitant to start a conversation is the fear of making mistakes. Feeling worried constantly will actually become a barrier for you. Change to positive thoughts. Also remember that when you are preoccupied with worrying about the wrong word, this will distract from what is being said. So it's much better to focus on what the other person is saying and respond without worrying too much. 

2. Take a deep breath

In various contexts, taking a deep breath and exhaling slowly is very effective in overcoming panic. Therefore, try to do this as much as possible when you are tense, so that you can feel calmer. Stay relaxed and let the conversation flow on its own.

3. Self-introduction

The easiest way to start a conversation when in a situation with new people is to introduce yourself. Not only that, but this method will also provide space for the other person to do the same. After that, start asking simple questions or short observations for further discussion. 

4. Positive comments

As much as possible, start the conversation with an enthusiastic and positive tone. Do not make negative observations or complaints. Whatever the situation, look for positive sentences. If you can't, it's better to remain silent. Don't forget to tell the other person that you are enjoying this conversation. No need to comment too deeply. In fact, simple questions or comments about what is being watched, the weather, or just the interior of the room can also be conversation ideas.

 5. Asking for help

Another idea to start a conversation can be a simple request for help. Whatever it is, from asking about the hours to the agenda of the event being attended. The advantage of this kind of approach is that it can provoke further conversations about different topics. This means that a kind of reciprocal social contract will be formed between you and the other person. Don't forget to thank and introduce yourself after the other person has provided assistance. 

6. Pay attention to body language

Interestingly, body language is the most important way of showing respect to others. In fact, this is a way of communicating to show interest in the emotions that are being felt. For those of you who often have trouble finding ways to start a conversation, try showing positive body language first, such as standing comfortably and making eye contact. On the other hand, the body language that needs to be avoided is talking without looking at the opponent, the body slumps and is not straight, to the point of frowning. This will actually make the other person feel boring or unattractive. 

7. Avoid sensitive topics

It is important to remember that sensitive topics such as political choices, gossip, complaints, or offensive jokes should not be a topic of conversation. In fact, this can make the other person feel uncomfortable and even trigger conflict. In essence, avoid anything that seems offensive, controversial, and creates a sense of discomfort. When going to give a response, provide a safe comment. Especially if the conversation is done with a stranger who is meeting for the first time.